The Perfect Online Dating Services for People Over 40

By RL - June 05, 2020
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Just because you’ve recently turned 40 doesn’t mean you’ve dropped off the face of the earth and out of the dating world. Just because you’re well into your 50s doesn’t mean you’re left to trudge through the dating scene while trying to successfully balance kids, a career, an ex, and your well-established social life. Dating in your 60s doesn’t need to feel inaccessible or out of reach. When many of your friends are married or in long-term relationships during this season, life can feel lonely. Dating can feel even more isolating. Online dating services can be a tool to help you navigate relationships at any stage. The virtual scene can seem overwhelming to many people though and full of potential problems. 57% of all online daters have shared that their experiences have overall been positive, according to surveys conducted by Pew Research Center. We’ve done some research for you so that your experience can be one that’s positive, fulfilling, and just what you’re in need of. We’re here to offer navigational tips and online resources for those just starting out in the online dating world or for those looking to change things up a bit.

If you’re among the 20% portion of web surfers between the ages of 55-64 who have already been using a dating app or service, you may be well in the know. You might, however, be feeling frustrated from sifting through the many app options and service providers that just aren’t responding to your specific needs. Dating later in life is significantly different than entering the world of romantic relationships for the first time ever. And for individuals who did not grow up with social media as an integral part of daily life, understanding online etiquette, dynamics, and subtleties can feel intimidating. What you might get from an online service will no doubt vary depending on what you’re looking for in the first place. In search of you next life partner? A first wedding? A third wedding? Friendship only? Casual romantic connections?

Zoosk started out as Facebook application originally in 2007 and is now one of the largest dating sites found online these days. The app has tallied 40 million users since then and with more than one million active users right now, according to Statista, there should be plenty of fish in the sea. More than half of these active users are paying members which implies they’re pretty serious about finding a match online. Like many social media platforms these days, the Zoosk app uses an algorithm to track activity and interactions so each user’s personal preferences can be better understood. A unique feature on this app is the option to swipe “maybe.” Trying to do that in real life is a bit more awkward than online.

Unlike Zoosk, which is used by anyone 18 years old and older, 69% of Match.com users are between 39-74 years of age. After downloading the free app and browsing at your leisure, users will need to pay for a monthly Match.com subscription in order to actually message other people.

eHarmony is Match.com’s biggest competitor. Although its app is open to anyone 25 years old and older, its two biggest age groups are 30- to 44-year-olds and then 55- to 64-year-olds and tends to cater to those looking for serious relationships and marriage. Customers who are looking for a thorough vetting system and guarantee will likely be satisfied with eHarmony’s service. Throughout the process of signing up, customers must complete a questionnaire with 150 questions so the company can curate better matches. eHarmony claims to be responsible for creating 4% of marriages in the United States and is so sure of the quality of their services, they offer a three month guarantee or you receive another three months for free.

The catch phrase for this app might just be the best one out there: Hinge – “designed to be deleted.” Interested users can log in through their Facebook account and potential matches are then made within the person’s Facebook friends-of-friends network. Users will receive a list of “most compatible” matches, people who Hinge claim a user is eight times more likely to go out with based on common interests shared in the app’s online questionnaire. The app shares how many people have liked you and what exactly they’ve shared that they like about you. Post-first date, users are able to enter feedback online so that better recommendations can be made each time until you’ve finally found a good reason to delete the app.

Another interesting online dating service includes Plenty of Fish, an app that requires users to take a personality test but promises in return that you’re 2.7 times more likely to strike up a chat in your first 24 hours compared to other apps out there. Silver Singles is a site exclusively for the 50 years and older crowd. Following a personality test, compatible matches are shared and users receive 3-7 new matches per day. Lumen is also a dating service that is exclusive to those over 50. Its unique perks include banning direct messaging and limiting the number of conversations a user can initiate at any given time. OurTime boasts one million users in the 50+ age category, according to Statista and claims to be the “#1 dating app for seniors.” Whether you consider yourself a “senior” or not at 53, apparently you can find pen pals, schedule dates, strike up friendships, start long-term relationships, and land marriage partners on OurTime.

Bumble is a solid choice for discerning women who want to avoid unsolicited messages and would rather initiate all contact. Only women can reach out first on Bumble, and at a monthly rate of $11.99, it is more affordable than many other choices in the App Store right now. Finally, 38% of all users on Tinder are 35 years and older. It is by far the most popular online dating app right now with 8 million users, according to Statista. The app is free but premium features and upgrading will cost users between $14-$25 per month. Tinder claims to make more than 26 million matches on a daily basis so those are some good odds. Yet, keep in mind that users over 30 pay more per month.

Choices seem to abound on every online dating service site out there so be sure to research your choices, check your costs, and then have fun!